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Cake day: May 29th, 2025

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  • I want to get grumpy here and say that watching their edutainment documentary on ____ (fill in the blank queer subject because I don’t remember the focus), that introduced me to Christine Jorgensen and had clips of her performing made my LIFE! I think they were from the Library of Congress or something, and who the hell knows if they even exist anymore. She did a cover of Welcome to my World that took the tune from a old crooner song to this upbeat fun and flirty jam and it was absolutely mesmerizing. That was just a ten second clip too, but it was so wonderful. I had another grumpy pants moment tonight when I talked about how happy people are post-transitioning and how frustrating it is to me that people can see transjoy and think “I want to smash that.” I mean I have met so many transfolx who have this deep seated awful pain that pretty much saps the life from them until they get the right support they need. It’s like night and day. I just don’t get it. We don’t recruit, even though we used to chant it to scare the straights. Really, we just make people more aware of the possibilities of who they could be if they want to be said way. Youth explores, I’ve known a LUG or three in my lifetime. I think exposure to a wide range of folks in media helps people. I know I was happy the first time I saw someone who looked like me on a TV, and it damn near took 25 years or so to do it. So yeah, it’s important. I really hate this happened, but hopefully they’ve just archived them for later. You can’t fuck with the bag in this world.


  • Me too, actually. Hehehehe! To be honest with you, I think my favorite state in the Midwest is WI, gotta love those lakes in Madison. I swore to myself at a young age that I wouldn’t “backtrack” which means I want to keep living in new states cause life is short and it’s important to get in all you want to get in before you get too old or tied down to do so. Only state I am willing to revist is Eastern PA, cause I lived on the other side and it’s practically two states put into one. One of my close friends lives in MI, but we met in IL she’s in the Kalamazoo area. Some bent part of me wants to go to the UP, but I think it’d be an easier sell not to look towards the SE side. Especially cause there’s puffins, and who doesn’t love to see little puffins hanging out? I will say Detroit last time I went through had some of the saddest architecture I’ve seen in my life (I’m sure you know where I’m talking about). Looked firebombed. I think it’s flipping though, and I know there’s a bustling art scene. I think my favorite thing about the Midwest as a whole is how kind folks are. It’s not always there, but when it is it’s real genuine. It’s actually that genuine spirit I like about the East too, although it’s not the same scene obviously. I just like that organic energy, people acting as they think/want. Of course I tend to stay away from the water cracker folks out East, so that might be different with that old money kind.

    A friend of mine who is from MI (but not the gal I am talking about) lamented the winters there. Said the snow never seems to end, the wind is brutal and it rolls off the lake with a fierce misery (because it’s to the East, you know). He also hated the basements, most of which are unfinished and dungeonous. Hehehe!

    Either way, I hope you’re air quality is doing okay. I am not sure what exactly is going on, but these wildfires have been killer for the air. Thanks for responding back by the by =)




  • I know someone who bemoans that mainstream individuals talk so much about transfolx because she wants to live a simple and quiet life and she feels when all eyes are pointed on transissues (love it or hate it) it makes her life more complicated. Also folks often think that all people of whatever outgroup they’re looking at is just like one monolithic thing. It’s why people who get into positions of authority are seen as the “spokespeople” for their group. I do think conversing is the bridge to building better relationships in most situations. I have sat down with a biggot or three and been fine because I found our middle ground, even though if I had my choices I wouldn’t even be sitting there with them. Cause fuck racists. Fuck homophobes, etc. But I try to see the human in folks, and humans are sloppy fucks.

    I just also get that people are fatigued of having to demystify their humanity for others. By that I mean, I know a lot of black folk who are tired of trying to express that they’re humans to racist. They’re tired of trying to stand up for the entirety of their ethnicity just cause folks can’t get off their asses and educate themselves on why thinking people are below someone because the color of their skin (might) be different than their own. I also know there’s like…the right way and right people to talk to…er…other folks. By that I mean, I sure as fuck am a bag of wind and I might not be the right person to convey big ideas in short concise sentences. In this day and age, a lot of folks need big ideas turned into sound bites. They need space to mull things over. In my head, the best conversations are long drawn out back and forths. This isn’t really par the norm nowadays.

    I got all ranty and dumb. Idk if any of what I said made any sense, I am about to zzz off. All things aside, another thing I heard was that a trans individual I know thinks that cis folk hate trans folk because they feel “tricked” by them. Idk. I will say that I wish we all lived in Shangri-La, and that folks were kinder to one another. I will also say that even with the term “bottom-surgery” it tends to be more of a transman type lingo as far as I know unless stuff changed (cause I know you can say giving head for gals or guys so idk). Shrugadugdug. You could find a way to make things more accessible to folks if you want. But equally, be safe if you do. Cause people out here target transfolx and they truly want them dead.


  • I love stuff like this, that fits together like a couple of puzzle pieces and uses tension to stay close. Not only is it satisfying to operate, but it’s actually super accessible. I will say deer don’t play nice, and I have had them hop a fence that was about garden height in the past. Not sure how high this is, but I have also never seen them work a tension lock before. Good job either way, it’s nice to make something you feel good about.