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Cake day: December 13th, 2024

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  • I’m in a small town, and we had all of three hecklers show up. They just stood there pathetically, called us communists, and looked more and more nervous as more and more protesters showed up. They fucked off pretty quick.

    A bunch of people flipped us off, and one person tried to roll coal on us, but it was pretty pathetic. His truck wasn’t set up to roll coal, so it wound up looking like he was trying to intimidate us with his car problems. Quite a lot of laughter was had, and I imagine he wasn’t happy with that outcome at all.

    Overall, most of the passerby were supportive, and we didn’t have any problems.


















  • Consider therapy. It helps

    Thanks, you must have missed where I said I’m slowly unpacking all this in therapy. My therapist says I’m doing good, and that I’m not a racist monster because I’m putting in the effort, but that doesn’t seem to be a common definition. In any case, I don’t call myself colorblind any more, even if I don’t understand why, people do react poorly, so I don’t do it any more. This is retrospective.

    It’s like a friend coming out to you and you reply “I don’t care”, while that is not the worst way to respond and you mean well, you are invalidating WHO they are.

    But when I called myself ‘colorblind’ I wasn’t saying “I don’t care”, I was saying “Okay, tell me what that means”.

    Like, when I came out, I absolutely hated how big of a deal people made about it. I had people “validate that I was different”, but it felt like they were just making fun of me for being different because it was all weirdly patronizing. All this nonsense about “it’s okay that you like boys and girls, you’re still my friend” when I’m an adult who is into men and women, and I wouldn’t have started hanging out with you if I thought you didn’t like gay people? I’m still me, I haven’t changed, and stroking my ego is just telling me that you feel weird around me now that you know I’m not ‘normal’.

    I still felt stereotyped and unwelcome, even though they were being “inclusive”, and I don’t want to do that to black people. I don’t understand why that’s racist.