

Well, do you want to be right or do you want things to change for the better?
I don’t think anyone should have to engage with these people if they don’t want to, but something like 40%+ of the population are more or less OK with the way things are going. Humiliating someone, even if they had it coming and it’s entirely justified, tends to make them very defensive and double down on their position.
Is it fair? No. I hate it. They do not deserve grace in a lot of cases in my opinion, but when dealing with people and human nature I often find I have to decide between being right or being constructive. I am no saint. If the stakes only really involve myself, I’m probably more inclined to be a self-righteous sanctimonious jack wagon more often than not, but at these scales I think we need to be realistic. Acknowledge that it’s not fair we have to do this work, and then do it anyway.
I live in the US. I blame 40% of the people at a minimum, and likely more than that.