Why did they wait? Because if all this support started on day 1, a lot of folks would have feared nuclear retaliation and there is no way back from that.
The Russo-Ukrainian conflict is too complex to use your oversimplified perspective, and thus only useful to throw oil on the fire. There are serious nuclear threats, Putin’s unpredictable actions, it also involves many (very different) countries standing up against tyranny. The bureaucracy may be slow in its responses, but efforts are being made to ensure careful moves that prevent escalation. Labeling European leadership as bloodthirsty is misleading in my eyes; they are actively working to protect democracy.
Why would you think European leadership aiming for more dead Ukrainians? Why would they still provide financial and humanitarian support? And increase it now?
It’s a lot harder to do in some other democratic structures. 100 % for sure we have not yet reached end-game governance styles, no one and nothing is immune to sustained malice, but (for example) multi-party cabinets are a lot harder to ‘flip’ then just stealing one election and press the fascist button, which is what this ( States of Murica politics ) kind of feels like from a distance.