Why would you say its possessive? Its more about avoiding drama and just having one person you know you can count on. There’s enough drama in a mono relationship without having to pick sides.
I tend to view telling someone what they can and can’t do as being possessive. Demanding monogamy is therefore possessive. It’s taking away agency not as bad or as possessive as saying you can’t have friends who are X. Which is probably the most commonly recognized form of such behavior, but it’s on the same continuum in my mind.
Why would you say its possessive? Its more about avoiding drama and just having one person you know you can count on. There’s enough drama in a mono relationship without having to pick sides.
I tend to view telling someone what they can and can’t do as being possessive. Demanding monogamy is therefore possessive. It’s taking away agency not as bad or as possessive as saying you can’t have friends who are X. Which is probably the most commonly recognized form of such behavior, but it’s on the same continuum in my mind.