I’m all of the above (gay, bi, trans, gnome)

    • yermaw@sh.itjust.works
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      16 days ago

      I’m straight up envious. Not to the point of hatred, but I’m a little peeved that they get to order from the whole menu.

    • homes@piefed.worldEnglish
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      16 days ago

      It has been my experience that a lot of people don’t believe bisexual people even exist. It’s weird.

        • corvi@lemmy.zip
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          16 days ago

          Careful with that line of thought; it also implies that everyone is a little bit straight.

            • corvi@lemmy.zip
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              16 days ago

              The point I’m raising is that it’s dangerously close to telling a lesbian that they “just haven’t had the right dick yet”, etc.

              I don’t mean to rebuke, either. I made the exact same comment about everyone being a little bit gay when I came out back in high school, and was immediately met with the same response I gave.

              • Instigate@aussie.zone
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                15 days ago

                While I take your point, the concept of telling a lesbian that they “just haven’t had the right dick yet” is almost always used as a slant to imply that they’d actually be happier if they were straight, not if they were bi/pan. It’s more saying “you’re wrong” rather than saying “you might enjoy something else in addition”.

                Being bisexual myself, I find monosexuality to be pretty weird and struggle to understand it. I tend to put people who identify as either straight or gay in the same camp - as just not being open-minded enough to explore what feels like the natural state to me; that all people are potential sexual candidates. While it’s a pretty blunt instrument, I tend to think of the Kinsey Scale as being normally distributed - that true 100% straight and 100% gay people probably exist but are extreme minorities.

                Again, that’s just my opinion, and it’s not one I’d ever levy at a person derogatorily. I just think as a species we haven’t yet come to the point of thoroughly and completely deconstructing the social and biological frameworks we’ve constructed around sexuality.

                • AdrianTheFrog@lemmy.worldEnglish
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                  15 days ago

                  I think with the straight/gay labels, you’re not going to be not attracted to someone just because they say that they’re a guy or girl. So really there’s just some appearances that you find attractive, and some not. For most people, those line up pretty well with femininity and masculinity, with maybe a few other restrictions on top. Any label is going to be a simplification, you can’t describe with one word the whole range of people you are attracted to.