• RizzRustbolt@lemmy.world
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        “Boys will be boys” was always about getting into foolish hijinks. It has been co-opted by shitheads to excuse abhorrent behavior. And every time it happens there needs to be significant pushback from from folks to take it back from the bastards.

        • 🍉 Albert 🍉@lemmy.world
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          sadly it’s hard to take back a term.

          shitheads missuse the term

          normal people then avoid such term

          now it’s a bad term

          any attempt at reclaiming it will be suspicious as if someone just wants an excuse to use that word.

          it’s mostly a slut thing.

          but with slurs it’s “easier” to reclaim, as the community affected by it, can choose to use it.

          in this case it’s different.

      • jaybone@lemmy.zip
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        I think it was more of a euphemism for stupidity than a dog whistle for mysogyny.

        • 🍉 Albert 🍉@lemmy.world
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          it’s often used to excuse male children or teens (or young men) of misogynistic acts.

          although originally meant for general youth stupidity.

          it’s a good dogwhistle because it comes with plausible deniability.

          it depends on the context.