A growing segment of millennials and Gen Z are forming “anti-hierarchal” relationships with multiple partners and friends, according to a new study by the dating app Feeld.
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A growing segment of millennials and Gen Z are forming “anti-hierarchal” relationships with multiple partners and friends, according to a new study by the dating app Feeld.
Archive: https://archive.is/Y36Uk
Interesting! Very interesting. I feel like all these ‘anti-rules’ of relationship anarchy are just as difficult to manage as those of monogamy. But idk, never done relationship anarchy, so just an outsider’s perspective.
As a thus-far-monogamous person, my understanding of ENM is that the point isn’t to be easier, but to respect each person’s right to engage in relationships however feels right to them. One benefit I see is that for ENM to be ethical it requires open communication. It forces conversations about consent, satisfaction, curiosity, jealousy, priority, etc. All of those issues exist in monogamous relationships, but we’re allowed to avoid talking about them by saying for example, “It doesn’t matter if I feel jealous because the contract says we won’t have other relationships.”
That’s part of why you don’t see more of us, we’re all so busy maintaining all our relationships that we don’t often hit the club scene (or wherever it is that people mingle these days).